{"id":7220,"date":"2021-09-10T08:50:52","date_gmt":"2021-09-10T12:50:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=7220"},"modified":"2021-09-10T08:50:52","modified_gmt":"2021-09-10T12:50:52","slug":"the-body-knows-the-heart-knows","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=7220","title":{"rendered":"The Body Knows, the Heart Knows"},"content":{"rendered":"
I haven’t posted for a long time because I’ve been doing so badly. \u00a0When I read this the other day, it described so well exactly how I’ve been feeling. \u00a0I even found myself able to cry, which rarely happens in the absence of a witness.<\/span><\/div>\n
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From Matt Licata’s blog for September 8, 2021<\/a><\/span><\/div>\n
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The body knows, the heart knows<\/p>\n

So many of us feel shame related to our trauma, wounding, and sensitivities, as if they\u2019re evidence that we\u2019ve failed, it\u2019s our fault, that something\u2019s wrong with us, and that we\u2019re broken and beyond repair.\u00a0<\/span>Even if we \u201cknow\u201d this isn\u2019t accurate, that cortical knowing is no match for the subcortical fires in our limbic and bodily circuitry, where unmetabolized grief, sadness, and rage dwell as the shattered children of our unlived lives.<\/p>\n

The emotional pain is tragic in and of itself, but underneath is a psychic homelessness and deep sense that we\u2019re alone, which is really at the root of trauma. Here, we long and burn for the missing companion.<\/p>\n

As human beings, we are wired to co-regulate – to rest, explore, and play within a relational field. We were not crafted to \u201cdo it all on our own\u201d – the nervous system that goes with this particular star is one designed to flower in a relational vessel.<\/p>\n

We can do so much for one another, to transmute personal, collective, and transgenerational trauma and trance: The words we use, the softness in our eyes, our presence when we listen, taking the time and the care to ensure that the other feels felt and understood.<\/p>\n

So many of us are living in a way that has been toned toward a felt sense where it\u2019s just not safe to be who and what we are.<\/p>\n

If you want to help someone in your life, start by helping them to feel safe.<\/p>\n

While the mind may conclude that a moment of safety is inconsequential, the body knows, the heart knows. If we look carefully, we may see just how that one moment ripples out into the neural circuitry of the world.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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