{"id":5069,"date":"2016-02-12T09:49:35","date_gmt":"2016-02-12T14:49:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=5069"},"modified":"2016-02-12T09:49:35","modified_gmt":"2016-02-12T14:49:35","slug":"grief-and-regression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=5069","title":{"rendered":"Grief and Regression"},"content":{"rendered":"

Erica recommended a book called \u201cThe Wild Edge of Sorrow<\/a>\u201d and it came today.\u00a0 I found two paragraphs in it that described exactly the place where I\u2019ve been stuck.<\/p>\n

\u201cOne of the most essential skills we need to develop in our apprenticeship [with sorrow] is our ability to stay present in our adult selves when grief arises.\u00a0 I have often witnessed, both in my private practice and in workshop settings, individuals regressing into a child-like state when feelings of grief emerge.\u00a0 They suddenly feel panicked, overwhelmed, hopeless, alone, and ashamed.\u00a0 They slide into another mode of being when sorrow comes near, one in which their perspectives, feelings and behavior radically change.\u00a0 It is important to help them restore a connection with their adult selves or they risk slipping farther into their dissociated state and possibly getting lost there for a prolonged time.\u201d\u00a0 p5<\/p>\n

\u201cAt times, grief invites us into a terrain that reduces us to our most naked self.\u00a0 We find it hard to meet the day, to accomplish the smallest of tasks, to tolerate the greetings of others.\u00a0 We feel estranged from the world and only marginally able to navigate the necessities of eating, sleeping, and self-care.\u201d \u00a0 p15<\/p>\n

It helps enormously to have such exact descriptions of what I\u2019m going through.\u00a0 I feel like I\u2019m not alone.\u00a0 I had not thought of myself as grieving, but that\u2019s because the process of grieving things you never had is very difficult.\u00a0 How can you know what you didn\u2019t get, until you are actually able to feel and recognize it, and sense a hunger for it that was never filled?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Erica recommended a book called \u201cThe Wild Edge of Sorrow\u201d and it came today.\u00a0 I found two paragraphs in it that described exactly the place where I\u2019ve been stuck. \u201cOne of the most essential skills we need to develop in … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5069","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-depression","category-trauma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5069","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5069"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5069\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5069"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5069"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5069"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}