{"id":4557,"date":"2015-01-17T09:35:53","date_gmt":"2015-01-17T14:35:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=4557"},"modified":"2015-05-08T20:00:27","modified_gmt":"2015-05-09T00:00:27","slug":"nancy-napier-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=4557","title":{"rendered":"Nancy Napier"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nancy Napier\u2019s book \u201cGetting Through the Day; Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children<\/a>\u201d has been a really helpful resource for me.\u00a0 At first it simply validated my despair and sense that there was no way out.<\/p>\n

For children who were traumatized, there\u00a0was<\/i>\u00a0an undeniable need to be rescued.\u00a0 Sometimes it\u2019s hard to let go of an experience that feels so real, so immediate.\u00a0 To imagine that you can take care of yourself might feel as overwhelming as it was then \u2014 and as unachievable. \u00a0 p137<\/p>\n

It\u2019s as though part of us can\u2019t bear to experience what it was like to be let down so horribly when we couldn\u2019t do things for ourselves, when we had to depend on others.\u00a0 To have needs that\u00a0must<\/i>\u00a0be filled by others, and to have those needs ignored, humiliated, or abused, brings about almost intolerable feelings of vulnerability.\u00a0 It\u2019s even worse because, as children, we can\u2019t\u00a0not<\/i>\u00a0have needs.\u00a0 We can\u2019t turn them off completely. \u00a0 pp138-9<\/p>\n

Journal: My friend Barbara said she was using her mantra \u201cI am worthwhile,\u201d and it was helping.\u00a0 Unfortunately, I have trouble with affirmations that I know are not true.\u00a0 So I went back to my vision of the Universe<\/a>, that I constructed from what I know of astronomy, and found I could say to myself \u201cYou are an important part of the Universe, you are a node in the web of light, you matter to the whole.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Monday:\u00a0 This morning I can add that I am an integral part of the Universe, and it doesn\u2019t matter how well or how poorly I do my life, what matters is my integrity, authenticity, and my fierce commitment to truth and to compassion.\u00a0 What I actually accomplish is nowhere near as important as the values I embody.\u00a0 \u2018Whatever you have done or not done<\/a>\u2019 is not what god cares about, is not what god\u2019s doing in my life.\u00a0 God is the Truth and the Compassion I embody.<\/p>\n

Well!\u00a0 That\u2019s a lot better than yesterday.\u00a0 That\u2019s something I can hold on to, and can also share with the frozen baby.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Nancy Napier reminded me of the exercise of connecting your heart with the inner child\u2019s heart.\u00a0 First you imagine your own heart filled with light, it doesn\u2019t matter what color.\u00a0 I usually choose peach.\u00a0 Then you imagine a line of light extending toward your child\u2019s heart and ultimately connecting with it.\u00a0 In this chapter she emphasizes being very gentle with the light, offering it to the child, but not forcing it.\u00a0 I\u2019ve done this before with lost children, especially one who was floating out in a void, unconnected with anything.\u00a0 To contact the frozen baby needed to be very gentle, no faster than she could allow.\u00a0 I\u2019m so glad I was reminded of this exercise because it doesn\u2019t require words.<\/p>\n

This time the frozen baby is inside me, in my lower abdomen.\u00a0 I see a parallel between her difficulty absorbing anything positive, and my adult difficulty. \u00a0I am opening my heart to her and offering her a connection, and allowing her to absorb it at her own pace.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nancy Napier\u2019s book \u201cGetting Through the Day; Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children\u201d has been a really helpful resource for me.\u00a0 At first it simply validated my despair and sense that there was no way out. For children who were … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4557","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-healing","category-trauma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4557","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4557"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4557\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4557"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4557"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4557"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}