(At Kripalu with Jack Kornfield, December 2008)
\nI had a talk with Little Jenny.\u00a0 I told her that her mother was mean to her because she was jealous of Little Jenny\u2019s authenticity.\u00a0 That she herself was hurting and avoiding feeling the pain, and one way to avoid feeling it was to be mean to her daughter.\u00a0 Little Jenny wasn\u2019t really able to get it, she kept saying things like \u201cYou mean it wasn\u2019t my fault?\u201d \u201cYou mean I\u2019m not bad?\u201d \u201cI just wanted to make her happy.\u201d I could see her baffled pain, and I could see Marshall & the baby jackal puppet giving a cry of pain, and the soft furry animal cut in two on the highway.\u00a0 I\u2019m thinking I may need to spend a lot of time talking to Little Jenny.
\nWanted to make a note of what happened when I did the lovingkindness meditation for W as an enemy.\u00a0 It was surprisingly easy to wish her well, and I found I didn\u2019t really care if it worked or not.\u00a0 Whereas, when I do the lovingkindness meditation for Eleanor, I\u2019m making a big effort (which I haven\u2019t been aware of) as though if I could just do it right, it would make a difference for her.\u00a0 Sigh.<\/p>\n
Well, I really am pretty bummed out.\u00a0 I\u2019m unable to be present to my experience of depression with any kind of acceptance at all.\u00a0 I just want to stop feeling so dead and dry and hateful and stuck.\u00a0 What would be skillful means right here & now?
\nThere, there, dear, you are having a pretty bad time.\u00a0 I think I\u2019m too tired even to write for guidance.\u00a0 I\u2019ll just go to bed.<\/p>\n
Marshall Rosenberg<\/a> developed NonViolent Communication.\u00a0 In NVC language “Giraffe” is speaking from the heart, “Jackal” is reacting in culturally conditioned ways.\u00a0 Marshall uses puppets to illustrate the two languages.\u00a0 Giraffe and Jackal are not ways of categorizing people, just their language.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" (At Kripalu with Jack Kornfield, December 2008) I had a talk with Little Jenny.\u00a0 I told her that her mother was mean to her because she was jealous of Little Jenny\u2019s authenticity.\u00a0 That she herself was hurting and avoiding feeling … Continue reading