{"id":1859,"date":"2011-09-11T09:56:36","date_gmt":"2011-09-11T13:56:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=1859"},"modified":"2012-02-28T18:25:59","modified_gmt":"2012-02-28T23:25:59","slug":"guidance-52","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/?p=1859","title":{"rendered":"Guidance"},"content":{"rendered":"

(Written in October 2003)
\nO spirits, I\u2019m in a profoundly bleak and despairing place.\u00a0 I\u2019ve been trying to work with my pain as Greenspan<\/a> suggests, I\u2019ve been dancing, writing, and painting my pain as well as breathing through the heart.\u00a0 When I was feeling really alive tho in pain it seemed like it was the right thing to do, now that I\u2019ve been in bleak stony misery all day it looks like I had beginners\u2019 luck and now the technique won\u2019t work for me again.\u00a0 I\u2019m maybe subtly trying to be with the pain to make it change instead of just being with it with compassion and patience.\u00a0 Please help me!
\n\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Dear Jenny, you are being too hard on yourself.\u00a0 You set your intention to offer yourself to the process of grief, despair and fear.\u00a0 You were prepared for the work to go on indefinitely, but feeling better last night fooled you into imagining that you now \u201cknew how to do it.\u201d\u00a0 Dear Jenny, you do this over and over again.\u00a0 It\u2019s not wrong or bad, it\u2019s just how it is.\u00a0 This is a long process, the work you do every day counts, but it doesn\u2019t always make you feel better.\u00a0 Be gentle with yourself, stop pushing yourself to \u201cget through this\u201d.\u00a0 You were feeling compassion earlier for those who numb themselves to this pain with alcohol \u2014 can you bring compassion to yourself that you are finding this work so hard and difficult?\u00a0 Give yourself some credit for being willing to tackle this.\u00a0 Relax.\u00a0 It is OK to not struggle any more today.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

(Written in October 2003) O spirits, I\u2019m in a profoundly bleak and despairing place.\u00a0 I\u2019ve been trying to work with my pain as Greenspan suggests, I\u2019ve been dancing, writing, and painting my pain as well as breathing through the heart.\u00a0 … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,3,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1859","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-depression","category-guidance","category-healing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1859","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1859"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1859\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1859"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1859"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/jennydeupree.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1859"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}